Southwala Shorts
- It doesn’t always happen because we’re cold or careless.
- Sometimes, we vanish from people we genuinely care about.
- We leave messages unopened.
- And then we feel guilty but still don’t know how to come back.
It doesn’t always happen because we’re cold or careless. Sometimes, we vanish from people we genuinely care about. We stop replying. We leave messages unopened. And then we feel guilty but still don’t know how to come back.
It’s confusing. For them, and for us. But there are reasons, even if we don’t say them out loud.
We’re Overwhelmed by Life
Work deadlines, family issues, health problems sometimes we’re already carrying so much that the thought of replying feels like one more weight.
It’s not that we don’t want to talk. We just don’t have the energy to show up in the way we want to.
It’s easier to go quiet than to say, “I’m not okay right now.”
We’re Afraid of Being Seen Too Deeply
When you actually like someone, opening up feels risky. What if they see the messy, tired, or insecure parts of you?
So instead of being vulnerable, you pull away.
It’s self-protection even if it hurts both people in the process.
We Struggle With Guilt
You mean to reply “later” and then days pass. The longer it’s been, the heavier it feels. Eventually, it feels too late.
So you stay silent because you don’t know how to explain the silence.
We Think We’re Sparing Them
Sometimes, we disappear because we think we’re not good for them.
“I don’t want to burden them with my problems.”
“I don’t have the time they deserve.”
It’s an attempt at kindness, even if it doesn’t feel kind to the other person.
We Don’t Know How to Restart
Once the distance grows, even a simple “Hey” feels awkward.
So we keep waiting for the perfect moment to reconnect… but it rarely comes.
A Friend’s Perspective
If you’ve ghosted someone you like it doesn’t make you a bad person. But it does mean there’s something inside you that needs gentleness.
And if you’ve been ghosted, remember: sometimes it’s not about you at all. Sometimes it’s just about what the other person is carrying.
In a perfect world, we’d all say, “I’m going through something, but I still care about you.”
But in this one, silence often speaks when words are too heavy.
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